Today felt different

You’ve all heard of the saying “seek and you shall find,” right? I thought of this a lot today in relation to me wanting to know everything about my genes and the genetic mutations that might have caused my breast cancer (bc). I am now officially obsessed.

As I wrote in an earlier post, I received confirmation of an ATM bc mutation this fall, and I’m now looking into my genetic risks for many more cancers. Up to this point, I’ve wanted to learn all I can about anything that would help my family and me get some answers about our cancer prospects. Each time I’ve seen my genetics counselor I’ve felt confident and excited that we would find “something.”

But today felt different. Today, I’m not sure what I really want to know.

Today I went back for more genetic testing. Unlike last time, Doctors are now going to be looking at specific cancer genes instead of just doing the gene “sequencing” which is more general. There is less of a chance they will miss anything with these new tests. I opted to learn about all genes that are linked to all types of cancers, although I was given the option to learn only about the genes related to breast cancer. I was alone when I made the decision, and in a way, I wish I wasn’t.

Soon, I might (or might not) learn new information that I may not want to learn — but I feel I have no choice in the matter because I somehow feel responsible for helping my family. I am the only one with the opportunity to “seek and find.”

While I was listening to my genetic counselor explain the new test to me, I kept telling myself:

Rebecca, you wanted this all along. Think of your family. Think of your family! …

(I took several deep breaths while staring at the paperwork that was presented to me — reading about all 25 genetic mutations that could reveal my chances of developing ovarian, colon, melanoma, you name it. I took a while before I made up my mind.)

“I choose to know about all genetic mutations!” I told my counselor. “I am a big girl and can handle this juuust fine.”

I would now be facing a new reality that I was not sure I wanted. What if I’m a carrier of a gene that’s unrelated to the cancer I was already diagnosed with? How do I deal with that? What will the doctors advise?

And let me tell you, some genes, if found, come with crazy recommendations. For example, there is this stomach cancer gene that, if I am a carrier, the recommendation would be to remove my stomach. How am I supposed to make such a decision? Not my stomach. I love to eat!

After I signed the form saying that I wanted to hear it all, I immediately asked myself, what did I just do?

I contacted my honey after I was done with the appt. and told him all about it, specifically about the stomach gene – as you can see, that one gene really caught my attention. He bears up as well as he can on this rollercoaster ride, but he still doesn’t like to hear upsetting things. He doesn’t want me hurt ever again. So, he wasn’t very thrilled about me wanting to know about all cancer risks, and potentially having more things to worry about.

Then something else hit me.

I think one of the main reasons I want to know these things is because I need reasons to make drastic decisions about my life. Right now I am basing a lot of my life decisions on “what if’s” because there is no concrete answer about my future when it comes to my cancer. Maybe if I get “the clear” with these gene tests it will encourage me to finally make a decision about building my family. At the same time, if they find a serious mutation for me, maybe this would be all I’ll need to know to convince myself that such choices are limited. Either way, knowing would be helpful to me.

Yes, today felt different, but I realize I still have reasons to want to learn more about my genes. And although I don’t feel excited about getting my results in 5 weeks, I feel I am doing the right thing.

Are the 5 weeks up, yet?

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Look closer

DSC_0436There is a painting in our livingroom from my native country, the Dominican Republic. I am in love with this painting because it reminds me of my happiest times growing up with my sweet grandmother. One day, while looking at the painting, it occurred to me that if heaven exists —and we all wish it does exist—I would like my scene to be similar to that in the painting.

My fiancé has trouble talking to me about my death; obviously, he doesn’t want to lose me. But I found a way to make him a bit more comfortable when speaking about me leaving him first, at least that’s what I’ve sensed, and it is related to this painting. Of course, there is no easy way to talk about death.

“Look closer,” I tell him.

“If I ever leave you first, look closer at the painting from our livingroom. You will see me and my grandmother together. I’ll be running through the sugarcane fields and wondering  if you are watching me. Wishing you were there with me.”

He takes a deep breath and looks at me with sadness in his eyes while holding my hands. He does pretty well with holding his emotions in but I can see his fears. I have them too.

“Eventually you will join me, if that is still your wish years from now. Either way, know that I am near,” I say to him.

“I want to be with you wherever you are. Take me with you,” he says to me.

“I am not allowed to take you with me if I go first. But always remember to look closer. I will not be too far away from you.”

I notice a peaceful look on his face. After all …

… Hope is the last thing we lose. And hopefully it will never be lost.

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Decisions after cancer

I thought that going through the treatments for my cancer was going to be the hardest part of this journey (for lack of a better word). I would lose my hair, throw up a few times, be constipated (or have diarrhea), eat less – which would have been difficult for me since I enjoy a big meal— feel tired and weak, among other side effects that could temporarily come with cancer treatments.

Truth is, I find survivorship to be the most difficult part of this mess.

For example, I’ve been contemplating the idea of starting a family. I harvested my eggs prior to treatments to allow myself that option. But now that it’s getting closer to this possibility, there are some concerns.

The decision about having a child may impact my outcome. You see, my tumor’s diet consisted of my estrogen and progesterone.   The good part of that is that it makes me a candidate for a daily Tamoxifen pill, which is a good treatment for my type of cancer. Tamoxifen suppresses estrogen. But the problem is, I can’t be pregnant while I am on Tamoxifen. And, my Onco now wants me to take this preventive pill for 10 years instead of 5 years, my original plan. The latest studies show that 10 years may be better.

I will be in my mid 40’s when I am done with Tamoxifen. However, I want a child. I want to build my family now, while I am still young (not saying people in their 40’s are old, but it could be a riskier age for pregnancy). I don’t want to wait until I am in my mid 40’s. I also don’t want to base my life decisions on “what if’s.” There is no evidence that a pregnancy could put my life at risk. But there are no guarantees either, no matter which choice I make. That’s the saddest part for me.

Oh! And did I mention that my doctors recommended that I remove my ovaries by the time I am 42 because of my ovarian cancer risks? Well if I am going to go through this surgery, I might as well get a Hysterectomy. This would def. end the possibility of becoming pregnant.

I am aware I can always adopt but it’s not what I want to do right now. I want to feel my child growing inside my belly. I want to hear his/her heart beat. I need to experience the miracle of giving birth. I want it all.

So here I am wondering what would be the right choice for me. The decision will not only affect me, but my love ones as well. I am not sure how viable it would be for me to get pregnant after cancer. My Onco is not thrilled about me getting pregnant but she is not completely against it. There is no study showing pregnancy would bring my cancer back, but theoretically speaking, it is possible. As you know, pregnancy raises the level of estrogen in the body by a lot, and I will not be protected if cancer were to develop again.

I sometimes worry about the process of pregnancy – how painful would childbirth be? Would I survive it? But I often hear mothers say that the hardest part is not giving birth or being pregnant. The hardest part is to raise that child. Well, this is parallel to how I am feeling right now about survivorship. Yes, treatments can be hard but Survivorship has its challenges too.

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Multi-gene panel for cancer predisposition: Genes, Risks, and Recommendations

I understand that not everyone wants to know about their genetic risks for developing diseases, but some people do. Finding out about my gene has helped me make educated decisions about my life-style and health screening options. So, for those interested in knowing which mutations have been identified, here’s a list: Multi-gene Panel for cancer Predisposition.

If you decide to see a genetic counselor, she/he may have more recent information. Science is continuously advancing and there may be new developments already in the works.

 

If you decide to learn more about your genetic makeup due to a cancer diagnosis, and have been found a carrier for one of the above genes, you may be a candidate to participate on Prompt. I am currently a participant. Let’s help scientists and doctors learn more about cancer, so that eventually,  they can create better target treatments for everyone. And who knows, maybe a cure too.

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Seeking closure

After being diagnosed with breast cancer at the age of 32, and with the number of cancer diagnoses in my family, you bet I was going to try to find out why I got it. Although we don’t really know why we get cancer, I was “lucky” to find a possible cause to mine.

First, let me give you a breakdown of my family cancer history (all from my mother’s side. No cancer on my father’s side. Yet.):

Great-grandmother – breast cancer
Great-aunt 1 – breast cancer
Great-aunt 2 – breast cancer
Great- uncle 1 – prostate cancer
Great-uncle 2 – prostate cancer
Grandmother – ovarian cancer
Aunt – leukemia
Cousin – breast cancer.

You see now why I wanted to look closer.

As soon as I was diagnosed with breast cancer, a group of genetic “investigators,” as I called them, at my hospital came to my rescue, wanting to know why I was diagnosed at such a young age. I wanted to know too, so I opted to be tested for the familiar BRCA1/2/BART genetic mutation tests which are linked to breast and ovarian cancers. Those results came back negative for me. I was simultaneously happy and skeptical. It didn’t make sense to me that I didn’t have a mutation considering my family history.

As the genetics team explained to me, these results didn’t mean someone else in my family doesn’t carry the BRCA gene(s), or that I myself don’t carry a different mutation. At the time, scientists had only identified a few mutations (such as the BRCA), and I was negative for those specific to my cancer.

But I was, and still am, determined to find out more about my cancer. I continued to look for more test options. Eventually I took an opportunity to do genome sequencing testing. As the genetic team described it, “sequencing” is a spellchecking process that looks at the sequence of “letters” in each gene, to find differences as compared to other people’s genes. Scientifically, a change, or spelling mistake, in a gene is called a “mutation.”

I had the option to learn about my genetic makeup as a whole or just focus on the results that will potentially impact my cancer outlook and treatment choices. I chose to learn about (1) genes related to all cancers and (2) genetic factors that may impact my future children (such as genes related to birth defects). I chose not to find out about my genetics for other common diseases such as Alzheimer disease and Parkinsons diseases. Why would I want to stress myself with knowledge about something else I cannot control or prevent? No thanks.

When I came to see the genetics team to receive my genome sequencing test results, my counselor had a big smile when she saw me. She knew how desperate I had been to get answers about my cancer. “I have good news,” she said. I stopped smiling and braced myself. Was she going to tell me I had no mutation?

She placed the results on the table and allowed me to read them. I had one mutation: ATM (ataxia-telengiectasia mutated) — a mutation associated with a moderate risk for breast cancer, and some lesser risks for other types.

“You look disappointed, everything OK?” She asked.

I was surprised. Even though I have breast cancer, I was expecting they would identify a mutation that was linked to ovarian cancer, too.

Let me explain.

I always feared getting ovarian cancer because of my grandmother. I saw her go through it. Seeing her go through all that pain affected me a lot, especially because she raised me. She was genetically the closest of my relative to have been diagnosed. In my mind there was a possibility I would get it too. I wasn’t worried about breast cancer because the only one who developed it from my family was my great-grandmother. In fact, prior to my diagnosis, my general doctors had told me that that particular diagnosis was too far away from my generation, so I had nothing to be concerned about.

One thing I learned after my diagnosis though was that both breast and ovarian cancers are linked. Once you are diagnosed with one, your risk of developing the other goes up. I had an observation too: My grandmother’s pathology report and mine were very similar although our cancers developed in different parts of our bodies. However, my genetic mutation was linked mainly to breast cancer not ovarian cancer.

Having identified the ATM mutation, my doctors advised me to get yearly breast MRIs, in addition to getting mammograms, which I had already been getting due to the density of my breasts. No additional recommendations were made.

Some people choose not to know about their genetics, especially those who have not been diagnosed with a disease. I can imagine the level of worry they may develop after learning they are a mutated-gene carrier. But it was different for me. For me, the more information I receive the better. Knowing my risks can help me take preventative measures. Plus I had already been diagnosed with cancer. I was desperate to find something to blame. And for the first time since my diagnosis, I felt a sense of peace. I was getting part of the answer to my puzzle.

There’s still a chance my mutation didn’t cause my cancer, but there is a high chance it did. And this brings me closer to finding closure.

I will be performing more genetic testing in February, specifically to look for risks associated with breast and ovarian cancers. I will have more information to share with my family— at least those who are open to receiving the information. But that is for another post.

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